DIBIA NWANGWU UCHENDU

A spiritual mentor is someone who cares about you and wants the best for you spiritually in the course of your spiritual growth. It could be likened to “Igba Ọsọ Agwụ”. A spiritual mentor knows the most important thing in life is to have a personal relationship with your spiritual guides, so they encourage you to invest in this relationship. As a result, you can grow spiritually and become mature in your area of spiritual specialization. Spiritual mentors are the ones who make sure our spiritual and personal growth, health, life get to the fullest potential by helping their mentee learn new things, skills, knowledge, experience, wisdom in making decisions and many more. They are not hundred percent perfect neither are they elders or coronated members of the society. As long as they are higher than one in spiritual matters and maturity, these should encourage you to approach someone with the intent of making them your spiritual mentors.

A spiritual mentor should be humble, loving, kind, compassionate, ethical, authentic, accessible and willing to provide mentorship. Their lives should reflect a mature relationship with personal challenges and hardships while contributing to their immediate society, home, job, neighborhood positively. They should be people who also have spiritual mentors coupled with being self worthy and have integrity to spend time with things that makes them grow in value daily. These can serve as their everyday spiritual practices for instance : igo ọfọ which is talking to their powers daily, meditation, divination practice, veneration of nature, spiritual alignment with their numerous spiritual guides, nature walks to connect, giving offerings to their deities among others

1. Your spiritual mentor should be able to affirm and encourage one. As humans, we desire to receive affirmation and be encouraged. A spiritual mentor is someone who believes in you, despite your shortcomings. In life, there are ups and downs. When you are at a low point, a mentor can remind you of your value in yourself and before your spiritual guides and encourage you to keep going.

2. A spiritual mentor is a Role Model.
A spiritual mentor leads by example. They realize it is not necessarily the words they say there actions should speak the loudest. They seek to honor Chukwu daily in the choices they make on a daily basis and provides guidance for those they mentor and encourage them to do the same by being like them.

3. A spiritual mentor should be accountable.
Explicitly speaking, it can be easy to fall prey to temptations and then lose sight of the relationship with Chukwu and entirety of Ora Mmụọ. A spiritual mentor can be someone who is honest with you and tells you when you need to turn your focus back to Chineke. However, mentors can keep you from falling but encourage mentee to live in a way that is honorable before the Ezumezu Mmụọ.

4. A spiritual mentor gives quality Advice.
He or she can offer wise counsel when it comes to some of life’s toughest decisions because they have walked the road before you, therefore a mentor can guide you positively in the right direction and steer you away from mistakes they previously made. Good spiritual mentors prepare you for what is to come and offer advice from Ọdịnanị Spirituality perspective.

5. Listening Ear.
Mentees need someone who listens and shows support. A spiritual mentor does not necessarily speak into your life all the time. They realize sometimes, a mentee just need someone to listen without judgment. Understandingly, they have experienced similar things. They are there for you during both good and bad times.

6. Spiritual Growth
A spiritual mentor is someone who cares about you and wants the best for you spiritually. In spirituality, the most important thing in life is to have a personal relationship with Chukwu and spiritual guides so they encourage you to invest in this relationship. This results in spiritual growth and maturity.

7. A spiritual mentor should be available in times of trouble as they provide succor with their experience in life trials. They will help the beginner navigate through times of trouble.

8. Spiritual mentors help the beginner achieve set goals when they provide valuable guidance and advice spiritually, physically or personally. Like helping mentee establish an Obi/Obu, teaching practical Ọdịnanị spirituality, keeping their protège focused centrally in the area of calling to ensure dynamic spiritual growth processes and practices.

Once you have seen someone who possess the spiritual qualities needed in that area of spiritual expertise, ask them to be your spiritual mentor by :
A. Asking the mentoring question.
B. Schedule an initial conversation.
C. Ask your potential mentor politely, if he or she can make time for a 15-30 minute chat with you.
D. Describe accurately the type of guidance you seek.
E. Confirm your willingness to do the necessary work and follow-through.
F. When everything is discussed, agree and respect the individual’s time.

Your spiritual mentor can also be your spiritual father. The difference between the two is that a spiritual mentor guides the mentee through a particular phase of life while a spiritual father focus on the spiritual enrichment and development of the “protège” throughout their life and have closer relationship.
To find a good spiritual mentor one should firstly:
Determine why they want a spiritual mentor.

2. Do spiritual consultations to confirm if who they have been admiring as a spiritual role model is suitable and acceptable by their own spiritual guides.
3. Observe that spiritual mentor closely.
4. Ask Your Spiritual guides to open a door to a mentoring conversation.
5. When you receive confirmation from them approach your spiritual role model and ask for audience.
6. During the meeting speak up, ask them to mentor you.
7. Ask what it will entail as Ọdịnanị Dibịas have Agwụ which they take permission from to accept you as a newbie spiritualist. Their Agwụ will give consent before they can accept to mentor or tutor any other person. In some cases, their AGWỤ is gifted somethings like tubers of yams, white cloths, Kolanuts, Nzu, Edo, Hot drink, Money etc
8. Be proactive and follow-up by accepting to offer their AGWỤ the items mentioned and get ready to be available 24/7 as it might take 2-5 years “Igba Ọsọ Agwụ”.
9. Evaluate the fruit during your spiritual mentoring process, are you progressing and assimilating?
10. Get a note book, if possible as some vital information need to be noted down during your tutelage under the spiritual mentor.
11. Be obedient, respectful, endurance and perseverance are watch words.
12. Take the good sides of your spiritual mentor and discard the bad sides as spiritual mentors have their strengths and weaknesses.

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