DIBIA NWANGWU UCHENDU

Whenever polygamy is mentioned immature girls go crazy! They prefer to abort in droves! They want to be side hens, then hide away to date married men and pretend to be sanctimonious! These ladies will not close their legs nor live a life of celibacy. They secretly date married men or have sugar daddies! These ladies do all manner of crazy things with their married lovers, though not courageous enough to go the whole 10 yards! Like toys, they are brought out from the shelves when needed. They do not care about their future as they hide away cowardly, afraid of what society would say. Probably, they have nothing to offer their partner if they are in polygamous union or they prefer to become liabilities. Polygamy is the custom in some societies in which someone can be legally married to more than one person at the same time. Polygamy is the practice of marrying multiple spouses. There are types of polygamy but the African type of polygamy is whereby a man marries more than one wife.

Realistically, not every man or woman will marry and destiny is the deciding factor! If a woman is destined to become number 2,3,4,5, she can never stop it. Many ignorant women sound woke when they know nothing about African and Igbo Culture and Traditions. This is why we are, where we are today! Western culture is suitable for westerners. Never mix both up! We respect our men and they respect us. Except for men who are badly raised! Women fall into same category as many never received home grooming from responsible mothers, this is the reason you see some married women and men kill their husbands/wives in the name of monogamy! Any woman who does not want her husband to marry a second or third wife should simply walk away rather than kill him. The consequences will be grave, to face the law and she is cursed forever by Ani for shedding blood, this is the spiritual angle.

Numerous women take advice from broke, miserable women who promote a twisted version of feminism. They do not have any idea of what feminism is. Feminism is being useful to the society while promoting peace, unity, love wherever you are. Feminism is not about challenging men to change the narrative. Else, such woman should grow a penis!. Watch the lives of women who deliberately challenge and disrespect men! They are never truly happy within. They enjoy misguiding other women and never practice what they preach. A man who is practicing polygamy should be morally just, conscious, financially, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, psychologically responsible. Polygamy is sweet with matured men and women who know what it is about. Polygamy is not for the faint hearted, stingy, jealous, possessive and irresponsible individuals. Many women who lack basic skills and are unemployed think polygamy is bad. Many women who have no mission to accomplish in life, lack vision, ambition or a clear definition of any type of marriage perish in the institution called marriage, whether it is monogamous or polygamous marriage.

What gives me pain, is our women that indulge in dirty, shoddy deals/runs, lewdness, lesbianism, bestiality and abortions, rather than respectfully accept polygamy. People who chose polygamous marriage must be matured, morally strong, financially ok both man and women, physically, emotionally, mentally, psychologically sound. They are good to go. Today’s polygamy does not warrant all the parties involved living together. They can chose to live in separate houses or same house with a solid mindset embedded with wisdom. The underlying mission to focus and understand themselves while fulfilling their life ambitions with total respect and regard for each other!

Polygamy lost value when men and women in it became indolent, parasitic, diabolic, insincere among others. Ọdịnanị Igbo spirituality advocates for “ịgba ndụ” inside polygamy, if it necessitates. Spiritually, this is to ensure equity, equality among the wives and safety.

Any Dibịa, Ada Ezenwayi or nwoke who frown at polygamy does not understand “ọmụmụ” and will always have issues with “Akwali Ọmụmụ” the goddess of Fertility, Success, general goodness and wealth in Igbo land. Do you know the reason majority of them display amorous behaviors and have uncontrolled libido? It is because they do not understand what our culture and tradition says about polygamy. Though, they are Ọdịnanị adherents but possess christian mentalities and mindsets. Polygamy is practiced in sub-Saharan Africa, where 20% of the population live in arrangements or cohabit with more than one spouse. Polygamy is widespread in countries in West and Central Africa for example in Burkina Faso, (40%), Mali (37%) and Nigeria (50%). People practice polygamy for many reasons that might include religious or societal purposes, stability, security, companionship, economic resources, reproduction and love. Historically, polygamy was practiced to protect widows and orphans during war times.

Advantages Of Polygamy.
1. Polygamy allows the man to have a wide selection of partners simultaneously. If one partner annoys her husband, he can simply spend time with the other wives and ignore the annoying spouse temporarily. Polygamy allows variety of different partners. It can make a man’s life easier as he choose whom he wants to spend time with.

2. Boredom is reduced:
The rate of boredom is reduced after the wedding and child bearing as the man marries another wife. Couples are likely to get bored in their marriage. Frankly speaking, globally most marriages are managed because some couples are scared to divorce. Some couples are afraid of the financial consequences of divorce and therefore stay married to their partners no matter what they are going through.

3. Increased connections:
There is no comparison between the connection of a man with 4 wives and 12 literate, working class and self employed children to a man with 1 wife and 3 children. The polygamist will be more wealthier and connected than the monogamist. This means more connections and a stronger social network for the polygamous family as networks and connections to different people are pivotal to success in numerous aspects of life.

4. Status Symbol: In some cultures, being a polygamist is considered a status symbol. Truly for men, the more wives a man has, the higher his social status will be in society thus other men would want to be like this polygamist. Men who marry more wives are the most respected men in those societies.

5. Polygamy Reduces Cheating: Having more than one partner can reduce the rate of cheating. People who marry many wives have low inclination to cheat on their partners. The bigger the variety of different partners, the urge to cheat will die off. However, the man can stay at home and choose the desired wife to spend time with.

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